But I wish teachers and others would keep in mind that families are not all intact. When the residents of the back bedroom came to live with the BH and me, we had to do a lot of comforting. Doughnuts with Dad and Muffins with Mom could send one or all of them into tears. I know teachers and schools had the best intentions with these events, but I also think that there needs to be some more understanding of the family dynamic. There needs to be more attention paid to how many students might not respond well to doughnuts or muffins because Dad or Mom is not present in their lives.
For Mother's Day, BH had a mug made with photos of College Girl and Career Girl on it. It sits on my computer desk already, a reminder that sometimes traditional roles are played by non-traditional folks.